Friday, November 4, 2016

Family Update

It has been a long time since I have written on my blog.  Every once in awhile I get a random email from someone asking how my son and family is doing is so I decided to do an update just in case there is anyone wondering what we have been up to.

He is still sober! Slowly his life continues to get better as does he.  B is working with Dad and starts school next year.  He found something that interests him that has turned out to be a perfect fit and he loves it. His hope is once he gets some certifications he will be able to get a good job that will enable him to support his family without our help.   He is an amazing Father - I don't want to say we are surprised as we always felt if he wasn't using he would be because he is kind and patient.  However, he has exceeded all of our expectations.  His baby is now 8 1/2 months old and is very attached to him actually they are very attached to each other and it is beautiful to see my son as a loving, patient dad who wants to be a great example to his son.   He is 100% Daddy's boy and a huge reason B is still sober.

It has been a very bumpy and slow process and it seems just the last couple of months that things are really coming together and we have seen amazing progress.   He still goes in for his vitamin and amino therapy shots, takes vitamins and swears it all helps him.  Well it can't hurt!

Little brother is in another Country for his first semester of College. We are so proud of him but miss him terribly.  My Husband surprised us and flew him home for a couple of days - best present ever! He is doing well and seems to have adjusted beautifully.  I already bought his ticket to come home over the holidays and will treasure every moment as within a couple of weeks he will start his "home" school out of State.  Much better than being out of the Country.

My Mom just turned 85 and still lives with us.   Her memory continues to decline and there are days she will ask me the same thing no less than 20 times in an hour.  She knows her memory is bad and for some reason thinks it is because she had a stroke last June.  Where she got that I will never know - she says the Dr told her she had a stroke but that is not true.  She has never had a stroke or a heart attack really nothing she is in great health per the Dr. It is interesting that she tells that story to everyone we see and then asks me what the exact date was.  I just throw out a day in June now because it is not worth trying to explain to her that nothing happened. She loves to get out so I take her every where I go unless I have a lot to do where she will get too tired. I love the Company actually I have gotten used to her going every where with me and it is very nice.  B goes out to dinner with her at least once a week with the baby.  We are very blessed she is so healthy.  And boy does she love the baby and since she lives here she sees him almost every day which is great for her and me cause I get much more done when she is entertaining him.

Dad still works a lot and also works with B.  They share an office and it is so sweet.  I hear them laughing and B takes so much pressure of Dad because he has learned how to do a lot of what Dad does - Dad says the biggest plus is spending so much time with B and seeing him turn into the man he knew he could be. They always had a great relationship but it is so much better now that B is sober. There is no more sadness in Dad's eyes when he speaks with B there is nothing but Pride and Joy.

As for me I am still selling Real Estate, just started back up on the Parent Coaching and I am doing my intern hours at a wonderful rehab.  They are close to my house and extremely understanding that I have a job and I'm a Grandma and that has to come first.  They allow me to make my own schedule. I really couldn't ask for more.  If all rehabs were this caring I truly believe it would make a difference for so many.  I am going to cut my hours a bit though - I wanted so badly to get all my intern hours done by the end of the year I took on way more than I can handle. I swear being a Grandma can be a full time job in itself.

I have mentioned before that I belong to a couple of great Facebook groups regarding addiction. There is an amazing amount of love and support on them.  If you are ever interested in joining please email me and I will give you the links they are private.

I think that about sums up our family right now.

I would love to hear from any readers that I am not already in constant contact with so please always feel free to email me.  And how could I not include a picture of this little Angel?
First pumpkin patch!  This is the face he makes when you ask him to smile. 


  1. Tori, it is so good to hear from you and to read the update. Life is wonderful no matter how it comes.

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  3. I stumbled across your blog many years ago when looking into a medication I was taking, I read every blog post but never commented as I have very experience with addiction (I had a friend who used to have some drug addiction issues) so didn't feel I had any right to comment. However, this blog made me truly smile. You are a truly incredible woman and incredible mother. The love, patience (even through the awful times), encouragement to others and kindness shows through in your writing. Reading he is sober and doing well is wonderful, but reading how he is an amazing father, doing fantastic not only working with dad but in his relationship with him too, is even more wonderful.
    So lovely to read this on a cold, wet dreary English night - it has made me smile.

    (Apologies, I deleted previous comment as I had typod!)

    1. You made my day! Thank you so very much for taking the time to write such a lovely compliment. And thank you for reading our story.

  4. Thinking of you and your family. I would love if you did an update soon.

    1. Thank you! Will update soon.... I really miss writing on my blog.

  5. It has been a very long time since I have taken some time to catch up on your blog. I am sorry. I am glad however that B has found some peace as have you and the rest of your family. My youngest has 4 years clean and sober now! I still wait sometimes for the other shoe but do not dwell on that anymore. I would love to keep up with you on facebook if I could. I will email and hopefully hear from you soon. Have a most wonderful day

  6. I can't tell you how happy I am to hear this. Please send me an email and I will send you a friend request.